Returning to Work After Maternity Leave: No Two Journeys Look the Same
Going back to work after maternity leave is one of those experiences that’s both universal and deeply personal. Nearly every parent who works outside the home faces this transition, but the way it feels can vary dramatically.
From excitement to guilt: a wide range of emotions
For some, stepping back into a professional role feels energizing. They may be eager to reconnect with colleagues, dive back into projects, and enjoy the change of pace from the all-consuming early days of caring for a newborn. Work can feel like a piece of their identity that they’ve missed, and returning can bring a sense of balance.
For others, the return is painful. Many new parents feel waves of sadness, guilt, or even dread at the thought of leaving their baby in someone else’s care. You might find yourself replaying worries in your head: Will my baby be okay? Am I being selfish? Will I miss the most important moments? These emotions are normal, and they don’t mean you love your child more or less than someone else who feels differently.
And then, of course, there’s a wide space in between. You might feel excited one moment and heartbroken the next. You might love your work but grieve the loss of time at home. You might find comfort in routine but also carry a persistent tug of guilt. All of it is valid.
Taking care of yourself at home
Returning home after a long day at work can feel overwhelming. The house might need cleaning, dirty dishes may sit longer in the sink, dinner might still need to be made, and your baby is eager for your attention after hours apart. It’s easy to feel like you have to “do it all,” but it’s important to remember that perfection is not the goal.
Focusing on connecting with your baby and your family can be far more meaningful than a spotless house. Try to carve out small moments of presence: reading a book, singing a song, or simply holding your baby while talking about your day. Allow yourself to prioritize what matters most in those moments: bonding, rest, and self-care.
Some ways to make evenings more manageable include:
Simplifying meals. Consider easy-to-make dinners or meal prepping on weekends.
Letting go of nonessential chores. Dishes can wait, laundry can wait. Focus on being present.
Setting small boundaries for yourself:. Even 15–20 minutes of quiet time or a short walk can help you decompress and recharge.
Involving your partner or family. Sharing responsibilities can lighten your load and create more time for connection.
Remember, caring for yourself is not selfish — it’s necessary. A parent who feels supported and rested is better able to nurture and enjoy time with their child. Your home doesn’t have to be perfect; your presence and attention are what matter most.
A few things to keep in mind
Your experience is yours. There’s no “right” way to feel about returning to work. Excitement, sadness, relief, guilt, or a messy mix of all of the above — it all makes complete sense.
Transitions take time. The first days and weeks may feel overwhelming, but many parents find a rhythm with time.
Support matters. Having understanding coworkers, flexible childcare, or a compassionate partner can make the adjustment smoother, but even with support, it’s still a big transition. Give yourself grace.
You’re not alone. So many new parents wrestle with this. Talking with friends, peers, or a therapist can help you feel grounded and less isolated.
If you’re struggling
If you find that guilt, sadness, or anxiety feel overwhelming or don’t improve with time, it may help to reach out for support. Talking through these feelings with a mental health professional can give you space to process, find coping strategies, and remind you that you don’t have to carry the weight alone.
💡 At Morrow Therapeutics, I specialize in supporting new and expecting parents through life’s transitions, including returning to work after maternity leave. Whether you’re excited, heartbroken, or somewhere in between, therapy can give you a safe space to navigate this next chapter with confidence.